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Relaxing your vaginal muscles

13 Oct

I have now been using my menstrual cup for about 6 months. I am pretty chuffed about this! The best feeling was when I had to go away on a trip for a few weeks. I took my little pull bag containing the cup, swung it around my finger a few times from pure chuffedness, and tossed it into my going-away bag.

I thought with great chuffedness about how, a few months ago, I would have had to cram a box of tampons and a bunch of pads into my bag and then also make sure I keep them sort of discreetly down under the clothes in the bag. Haha! My menstrual cup bag lay there innocently, looking like a posh grey makeup bag, all made of shiny matric-farewell-dress material.

Relaxing your vaginal muscles is something I learned along the way that might come in handy for other cup users.

If your cup is kind of deep in your body and you are struggling to grip it and pull it out, don’t panic. Simply push down as if you were going to do a number 2. Then you will feel the cup come down quite a bit more.

Also, when inserting the cup, push down and it will be easier to push the cup in. Then once you’ve inserted the cup and made sure that it has fully reopened inside your vagina, pull your vaginal muscles in and up again – as if you are trying to hold in a piepie. You will feel the stem pull back up a little bit.

Ah yes, the stem. To trim or not to trim! I will talk about that in the next thrilling episode.

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Day 1 with my Miacup

31 Mar

So as you know, I’ve finally started really USING my Miacup!

And what a bloody wonderful thing it is. The first night went by with no leaks, not even a spot on my panties.

It is evening now. I’ve emptied it thrice today and that was far too much, it had only a little bit of blood in. To be honest it was more out of curiosity than anything else.

From time to time the stem of the Miacup pokes from inside into the skin that closes over the vagina. I guess that is why they say you can trim it. I don’t see why I can’t seem to push it deeper into my body! I hope I don’t have an exceptionally short vagina or something. I will try to see if I could easily take the Miacup out without using the stem, and then I will decide if I will trim it.

A life of zero leaks is in sight! When you remove the Miacup and empty the blood, you first need to wipe your body because some blood comes out with the cup and that’s the only blood that is going to stain your panties.

The most important thing is that I can definitely see my Miacup replacing pads and tampons forever! No doubt at all.

Inserting my Miacup

19 Mar

I tested my new mooncup today! Here is a little description of my experience that may help new users, especially ones like me: a virgin in her twenties. I think most other women who fit this description are comfortable with, but not very familiar with, their reproductive organs. That’s how I am.

My cup is called a “miacup” officially. It is distributed by a South African company by the same name. It seems to be exactly like the original Mooncup.  It comes in a standard Post Office padded parcel package. It cost me just under R400. I use type A for women under 30 who have also not given birth vaginally.

Before my first insertion. I sterilized it by boiling it in water for 3 minutes as per the instruction leaflet. Then I went to our res bathrooms with a little towel, a squirt bottle of water, the leaflet and the CUP! I washed my hands very thoroughly because I realized I may be getting a bit more intimate with my vagina than I ever have before.

Inserting it. In the instructions above, I used the first technique. The cup is remarkably firm. It actually takes some strength to fold it in half and keep it that way.

My real challenge was to actually push the cup into the vaginal opening. Having lubricated the vagina and the cup a bit with water, I put my finger where it would go – for a girl who uses tampons that’s not difficult – and then removed my finger and tried to put the cup in. The cup is considerably bigger than my finger, even in its folded position, and whereas I could feel my way with my finger,  I just kind of had to put the folded cup where I thought and then push it gently toward my spine. No luck. I wished I could just SEE what I was doing!

After a minute or two, I noted what exactly my finger does. I need to push down, toward the anus, if I want the opening to widen. I tried this with the cup and finally it worked! The next challenge was to keep it folded long enough to push it in, which I got right with the second or third try.

They then recommend that you grip the base of the cup – not the pull tab – and give it a full rotation in either direction. This secures the seal. This was quite new for me, as it requires inserting two fingers into the vagina at once and actually using them in there. This is how I learned that my vagina can actually stretch a lot.

Removal. You also have to grip the base of the cup when removing the cup, squeezing it and tilting it slightly to release the suction. Now that I had learned how to insert two fingers at once, this was quite easy. The cup moves down quite easily when you pull gently at the pull tab. Then you squeeze, tilt a bit, and pull gently.

A second time! Feeling a real sense of accomplishment, I did the whole procedure a second time. This time it took me a few seconds to insert and a few seconds to remove. The marketers were not lying: once you get the hang of it, it’s really simple.

Right now I’m a little bit aware of the skin outside my vagina; I think it isn’t used to so much touch. After all, it is sensitive and this was all quite new for me! It would have been nice to have something just to soothe it, but I don’t have a product like that. I’m sure KY Gel would have worked. Still it’s not painful.

Personal reflection

I feel really cool. I feel super comfortable with my body. I feel like I’m open-minded and ahead of the times! I am also quite relieved because I won’t be wasting money: I shall definitely be able to use the miacup for my periods.

Some thoughts about sex…

The vagina is quite accessible. As a young girl I used to wonder how on earth my husband will find my vagina, because I myself had no clue how to identify it “down there”.  But I’m starting to believe it will be very simple; I could guide the penis in a second.

Also, lubrication. That must be a bit awkward on your first night, having to first apply something to the penis before you can start. But I think it is essential.

Arousal. You can do alllll these things and never once feel aroused. Isn’t that a bit strange? The arousal organs are outside the vagina (unless it’s true what they say about the g spot…). Motion, not insertion, arouses. If you’re giggling, hush! I guess this is very obvious to anyone who has had sex, or has even watched porn, but I haven’t and I didn’t know.

Hymen and virginity. Assuming that a hymen gets broken upon insertion, I broke mine when I was, like, 13 inserting my first tampon, and if there was anything left it’s certainly gone now (and then breaking it was not painful, contrary to some things I’ve heard). If a whole hymen is how virginity is defined, I’m not. And if virginity is defined by ignorance, then I’m not (I’m not! stop giggling! refer to the pad-using friend above. she’s ignorant!). But I believe that virginity is about innocence; about having a lot still to experience with a man. A lot to give, and a lot to receive. And in that sense I am a virgin.

Which leads me to my last point. I’m not going to tell the boyfriend about my miacup, because I’m not sure how he would view it. The fact is that I’m incredibly curious about my vagina and the miacup gives me several reasons to get to know my body better. I think sex – with him or whoever I end up marrying – will be a bit easier because I’ve done some exploring on my own. With him probably knowing even less about the female body than I do, he might not understand how sexually innocent this actually is.

This is a satisfied desertvixen, signing off!