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To trim or not to trim…

14 Oct

That little stem!

Every menstrual cup comes with a little stem. They say you may cut it off if you like.

I was scared to cut mine off. I depended on it to pull the menstrual cup out for the first four months or so. I tried not to put pressure on myself to be all cool and independent, but rather to get entirely comfortable with the cup before I do anything to jeopardise the value of my little R395 investment!

But the stem pokes! I learned to pull in my vaginal muscles and this helps because it pulls the cup higher up into the vagina. But every now and again I would become uncomfortably aware of that little stem, pushing against the skin that covers the vaginal opening. (I don’t know what the technical name for that skin is).

So I practised. If you are considering trimming the stem, I advise that you practise too. Practise gripping the base of the cup, and not the stem, to pull out the cup. Once I was comfortable with that, I took the plunge… I trimmed it!

I didn’t trim it all the way, yet it was enough for the annoying poking to cease. This might be true for you, too, so you can experiment by only trimming a little bit off initially, especially if you are not quite confident that you will be able to remove it without the stem every time. I assume this depends on the length of your vagina.

I’m glad I trimmed it, but I would recommend gaining some confidence before you do. I like how much control I have nowadays. I can sit right here and push my vaginal muscles down and I will eventually feel the stem. Then I pull them back up and away is the poke… and I can forget about the cup again until tonight.

Removing the cup without using the stem is about equally messy as removing it with the stem, because either way at some point my cup has to be folded slightly to get out and that’s when the blood can spill out if it is quite full. I’ve seen a video of a woman demonstrating how to take out the cup without spilling, using a transparent glass tube as the “vagina”. I have not been able to get that right with my real life vagina! Maybe it’s because I haven’t had sex and my vagina doesn’t sommer stretch widely enough that a fully opened menstrual cup can come back out. I’d love someone who has had sex to comment on whether this will get easier after a woman has had sex?

Love your, um, faff

19 Feb

On the Mooncup poll, the word “faff” is number 170 on the list of popular names women give their vaginas, with 15 entries. I am impressed that their poll is enjoying so much attention.

Their marketing campaign for the Mooncup is necessarily sensitive and features an extensive FAQ: women probably don’t easily make a switch to such a strange new product, for such an intimate need. Yet they struck a chord with their poll, where women can anonymously celebrate the relationship they have with their, um, cookie (number 31 with 99 entries).

My period started again today, and I am currently weighing up taking a painkiller or remaining vaguely, almost pleasantly aware of this season by the dull ache just under my tummy. I guess I desire to interact with my feminity, with my fertility. Virginity probably increases this desire, as there is no other time besides my period when I interact with my body so intimately.

The Mooncup is appealing for the same reason. Besides the eventual cost effectivity, the logistical ease, and everything else they advertise, it will also require me to be in touch with my vagina more than otherwise am. That would be cool.